STRESS, WORRIES, AND ANXIETIES

STRESS, WORRIES AND ANXIETIES
Stress, worries and anxieties are undoubtedly major causes of sleeplessness.
So how does one overcome them in order to get a good nights sleep.
Its probably not very practical to get up in the middle of the night and go and see your doctor or psychologist. So what is one to do?.
Well, here is one solution which is very effective if its done correctly. Its also very simple, and that which is simple is usually the most successful.

Its best to do this before you go to bed.
Find a room or space where you will not be disturbed.

Think of a problem or situation which is uppermost in your mind. (maybe your girlfriend/boyfriend has left you. You are about to be sacked by your boss etc)
Write that problem down on a sheet of paper, including the details of who, where, when and what.
That action alone seperates you to a degree from the problem.
Its out there in front of you on paper. Its less passionate now.

Once you are happy you have written it all down, read it back to yourself.
Now write down the possibilities to remedy the situation.
For example, your boss is about to fire you.
1. Tell him to shove his job. 2. Apologise. 3. Ask for a transfer to a different department. 4. Ask him to review the situation 5. Start looking for another job in the morning.
You will start to feel good when you have the answer and can then go back to bed.

If you are uncertain as to which solution, list the advantages and disadvantages of each one you are not sure of.
Returning to the scenario with the boss, if you tell him to 'shove his job.........' then you definitely are fired, but you will feel good, (for a short while)
Apologise. You may not be fired,you still have your job but you will feel bad, (for a short while.)
Sleep well.


Friday, 1 November 2013

Toddler Sleep: 4 Reasons Toddlers Wake Up At Night


 If your child is having problematic nocturnal awakenings, there are a few possible causes:

Every parents has experienced the dreaded 2 AM call. You hear your little one stirring on the monitor. Either you wait, fingers crossed, to see if they go back to sleep and they don’t, or you run in there as fast as you can to stuff the pacifier in their mouth before they really wake up. Most babies are capable of sustained sleep (6-8 hours in a row) at night by age six months. If you are nursing your child, it may take them a bit longer to achieve this. I think that it is reasonable that every child should sleep through the night most nights by 9-12 months of age. Now, every child wakes up sometimes at night. I view the awakenings as a problem if they are more than a few minutes in duration, occurring multiple times at night, or resulting in significant daytime irritability for either the child or the parents.
If your child is having problematic nocturnal awakenings, there are a few possible causes:
  1. “Inappropriate” sleep onset associations. This is the classic sleep disorder of childhood described popularized by Dr. Ferber. Your child falls asleep under conditions that aren’t present later in the night (that’s was “inappropriate” means here). For example, you are rubbing his back or holding her; she is nursing; he has a pacifier in his mouth.  During the night your child cycles through deeper sleep, lighter sleep, and then may wake up for a minute or two every few hours. If the conditions aren’t present (e.g. she’s not in your lap) she will cry out until you go back in and pick her up. You fix this problem by teaching your child to fall asleep on your their own by having them go to bed drowsy but awake. Sometimes, moving their bedtime later by 30 minutes may help with this process. They may fuss for a night or two but the awakenings should go away in a week.
  2. Learned hunger. This occurs in children who are drinking a bottle or two of milk or nursing for prolonged  periods at night. They are conditioned to expect food at night so they wake up looking for it. If your child is over one, healthy, and feeding multiple times at night and requiring diaper changes, this is likely your problem. If your child falls asleep eating or nursing you may have sleep association issues as well. I recommend reducing the volume of the bottles by an ounce or increasing the intervals between nursing by an hour nightly which should address this. Going “cold turkey” is hard because your child is actually hungry and you need to wean them off this.
  3.  Medical disorders. Many common medical problems are overlooked as a cause of sleep disruption. If your child coughs frequently at night they may have asthma which needs to be treated. Acid reflux can be associated with belly pain and vomiting at night. Obstructive sleep apnea is a very common problem associated with snoring which can disrupt sleep. I would definitely recommend seeing your pediatrician about any of these concerns.
  4. Environmental factors. These tend to be obvious. Is there a TV on in the room? If so, please take it out of there! Is there loud noise from neighbors or the road  outside? Does the child share the room with a sibling or parent who makes a lot of noise? A white noise generator or fan can be useful in these circumstances. If the room is hot or cold (>75 degrees or less than 60 F) it can also be a factor.
Do you think these four explanations are sensible for your toddler? What have you done that has ended the dreaded overnight awakenings?
Dr Canapari will offer tips to mitigate early morning awakenings for toddlers on tomorrow’s post.
For more information:   http://seattlemamadoc.seattlechildrens.org/toddler-sleep-4-reasons-toddlers-wake-up-at-night/

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